Personal and Confidential Letters to My Sons and Daughters
Copyright © 2011 Dr. Joel Akande
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Personal and Confidential Letters to My Sons and Daughters
Tips and Conversations on How to Conduct and Prosper in:
Relationships, Business, Finance, Health, Religion, Law,
Personal Dignity and Security
© Dr. Joel Akande
Introduction
My dear sons and daughters,
I trust that all is well with you and I hope you are beginning to find your feet on earth. As you can imagine, things can go smoothly for you and sometimes if not most often, life can be a bit difficult and unpredictable.
As you may recall, we have discussed many issues in different situations. As your father and guardian, I have written these letters to you as your personal guide; with the primary aim that you will be able to make references to them and with these letters, you will teach your children and influence your friends in your life.
Having been through a lot, I suppose you will learn from my experiences and avoid the mistakes that I made or the mistakes that I have seen other people make.
Now, to make your reading easy, I have divided these letters into various sections that reflect key human cherished activities. Example, you will find some of our earlier discussion and letters under Family and Relationships. Yet in others, you will find them under Business or Personal Security and so forth. They will provide you tips and insights on how to successfully go about doing things to avoid painful pitfalls.
As your father, I am praying for great success and happiness in your life. So take caution to work diligently, be mindful of whom you trust, keep the law, have respect for God, pay due regard to fellow human beings but guard with jealousy and give utmost priority to your mind and health with all carefulness.
I am wishing you well always. Cheerio.
Yours most sincerely,
Your Dad, Joel Akande
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Section I
Family and Relationships
Chapter 1
Pre-Relationship Questionnaire
The following questionnaires have been developed to help you make an informed choice before you make a commitment in your relationship. These questions are useful guides but are not exhaustive as there may be a lot of personal attributes, cultural differences and religious factors amongst others, between many users of this assessment tool.
Also, there is no substitute for honest, practical, and background investigation of your partner before you commit yourself. Relationships break down because partners and spouses discover untoward behavior in their relationship. Very often, such behaviors have been there for ages although lying dormant or subtle.
Finally, I have not provided scoring of your answers here. You only can make the best of this questionnaire and your relationship. Simply answer the questions honestly. It’s your life.
However with a deft calculation, you may avoid the headache that relationship brings and reap a huge benefit in the process. You need to be completely satisfied with the answers that you provide or found to these questions below. My advice: Know your partner beyond doubt.
You
a. Are you truly ready to relate, marry or live with another person?
b. Are you in the right age, culturally and legally, to marry?
c. Why do you really need another person in your life? This is very important.
d. Have you outlined what you intend to benefit by going into this relationship?
e. What would you do if you have achieved the above benefits or you failed to achieve the above benefits?
f. Do you have any diseases, known or unknown to you, which may affect you or your partner, children and the stability of your relationship? Have you told your partner? Why not?
g. Are you financially stable to support another and yourself?
h. Have you got a secured job or training to guarantee an income for you?
i. Do you believe in marriage for ever or for a short term?
j. Are you mentally stable to withstand and rise above human disappointments and despair, or sudden death or let down?
k. Would you want children in this relationship? What would you do if no children are forthcoming? Why do you want children?
l. Are you religious and does your religion accept short term marriage (divorce) or bar short term marriages (marriage is for ever doctrine)?
m. What type of “marriage” do you have in mind: is it with opposite gender?
Your Family and Friends
No one is an island. We live in a real world surrounded by people and influenced by people. Your family/friends can aid your relationship or impair it , so are your friends and strangers. The opinions of friends and family do matter. They may tell you a lot about potential problems which you may not yet discover. They may know your partner than you do and have confidential information about him or her. You may need to seriously weigh the opinions of family and friends. Not all may be good as some may be given through malice. You need to put family opinions, your background investigations and observations together to make your mind up about your partner.
a. Do you have living family members, mum, dad, uncles, you could consult for advice?
b. Would they, your family and friends have influence on this relationship?
c. Would your relationship with your partner/spouse influence your relationship with your family and friends?
d. Have you sought wide-ranging confidential and honest advice from your friends and family about your relationship?
e. Are their opinions helpful?
f. Are you under pressure from family members to go into this relationship or marriage? Note: Except you truly desire this partner and relationship, you may regret accepting a person you do not like into your life.
Your Investigations
Here you need to be real with yourself and be subtle. Leave no stone unturned but be shrewd how you go about investigating.
a. Is your partner the genetic gender you have in mind and you want? (Simple hair or skin debris can reveal the true identity via DNA testing). Do you know the genotype, blood group, state of infection or non-infection of your partner?
b. Have you asked your partner to give you a full disclosure of her/his background in matters of medical illness, hereditary family illness, mental health illness, surgery in self and family? You need to know these. Avoid shocking news later or saying : "I wish I had known”.
c. Have you asked the partner to give you a full disclosure in matters of her/his previously undiscovered and undisclosed behavior such as crimes, drug use, sexual behavior and previous relationships as well as previous children? Face it now to preserve your “romance” or “pay later”.
Have you visited your partner's family, relatives and friends, making necessary enquiries. Do you like what you see and hear?
d. Is your partner and potential spouse the person he or she claims to be professionally?
e. Is your partner in debt and if so how much? Are you ready to accept the debt?
f. Are you compatible in cultural/language terms? Do you share similar religious values?
g. Are your career and life ambitions converging with your partner?
h. Have you discovered something you do not like and which you may not endure now or in future? Note: if you can not endure it now, it may be the cause of your relationship break-up in future.
i. Have you spoken about sex and how to conduct it?
j. Have you spoken about children and why you need or do not need any?
k. Have you discussed ownership of property within the law (you need the help of legal information on this).
Your Partner
People do not often realize that, for good or for ill, relationship partners significantly influence each other and may cause a change in the health and overall wellbeing of the other.
a. Is this the person you truly and honestly want?
b. Does this person match all your criteria in beauty, height, career, education, behavior, trust (read this clinical article), support for you, selflessness, love and care, health, endurance, religion or absence of religion, hard-work, ambition for children (or not), fertility and way of speaking?
c. Have you discussed legally binding marital agreement (MA) or have one? Is he or she in favour or attempting to shy away from MA? Note: This is important to contain bad behavior in partners and in spouses.
d. Who is going to lead this relationship? Discuss and agree now on the leadership. You are not socially/biologically equal but legally equal to your partner.
Comment: Note that there are laws, natural or God-made ( crucially, read also this article): and man-made (see the Family law you may not know it existed) , that regulate relationships and marriages which many people are unaware of until the relationship runs into problems. I will strongly advise that you make sure you are aware of these laws within your jurisdiction and culture before your relationship goes deeper. Avoid the pain now and later.
Premarital Sex
a. Do you and your partner believe in premarital sex?
b. Is premarital sex culturally and religiously acceptable to you and your partner?
c. Are you and your partner aware of the consequences of pregnancy, early parenthood and infection as a result of unguided sex?
d. Are you under pressure to have sex from your partner? (If so, this may be a sign of potential abandonment: either you agree to sex or not).
e. Have you discussed sex within the marriage?
The Test
Until you put the information you have to the test, you are still some steps away from reality of what marriage or relationship is like in the real world . Successful marriage and genuine relationship is a hard work. So, prepare a solid foundation now. Note that, "love is blind but marriage opens the eyes", the saying goes.
a. Have you tried to clarify issues that are unclear to you through direct and indirect means with or without your partner?
b. Have you put your findings to the test? You are better off doing so without letting your partner know.
Good luck and do compile your answers before making a decision
Section
II
Personal Security
Chapter 2
How to Avoid and Deal with False Accusations against You
There is probably no one in existence that in one way or the other have not experienced false accusation or lies being told against. Lies rule the world but lies ruin lives too. Banks can tell you that you have made an overdraft when you haven’t with the hope that you may be charged overdraft fees. You may receive an unsolicited letter that you have won a prize when you have not, all in the anticipation that you may fall into a trap of being conned. These are the easy ones.
What
is False Accusation?
False
accusation or allegation is a claim that you did or say something
which is in fact a lie.
Please bear in mind that false accusations is an attempt to cheat or deprive you of certain things that you possess such as your happiness, work, position, money, liberty, good name, peace, fame, promotion and so forth.
What if false accusation is about you and your character?
Areas Where False Accusations Are Most Prevalent:
Relationships: Most often this concerns relationships involving families and sexual partners. Frequently, false accusations involve sexual issues especially rape cases. As we shall see below, there are steps that can be taken to deal with false accusations in sexual matters. It may also involve money, abuse or property issues. It may concern nothing as one partner may lie against the other to get out of the relationship.
Professionals: Frequently, false accusation can arise when professionals deal with clients. Examples of such professionals are healthcare workers such as doctors and nurses, psychologists and others. Other professionals are lawyers, police and politicians who work in public duties.
The important issue is that matters of false accusation can arise when a person in professional authority deals with another person who consults the professional for advice or work.
Business and Work: In many occasions at work places, false accusations can be levelled against a work partner, business partner for various reasons such as jealousy, envy or outright hate or attempt to gain advantage such as to be promoted.
Financials: In many occasions, false accusations do involve monetary claims such as individual victim of false allegation misuse or misappropriate money in his or her care may be at work, charity, home, business or government. In some instances, such claims are false.
Religion: Pastoral position, clergy and so forth are positions of authority and as such are prone to false accusations. There is no doubt that many workers in religious settings have abused their positions of trust.
Crimes: By its very nature while being accused of false accusation is in itself a crime, one could be accused of having committed a crime such rape, stealing, misuse of funds, inappropriate use of resources at home, work, public places when in fact, such allegations are false. False accusations can be made in court of law by another person especially witnesses and other criminals intending on causing harms or criminals who attempting to “pass the burden” to another person.
Property: An individual could be accused of offences relating to property. It could be allegations of misappropriation and misuse of property or stealing. Such property may not be financial and the size of it does not really matter in the eyes of the law and the accuser.
Consequences or Impact of False Accusations
To the Accused: Losses and Gains
The victim of false accusation has an utmost task to clear his name in moral and legal perspectives. Otherwise, false accusation may stay and the more it stays undefended, the more people are going to accept it as the truth.
False accusation is damaging in private and in public settings. Once a false accusation is made in private, it diminishes the trust between the victim and the accuser. It lowers the joy and happiness between the people involved.
False accusation damages relationships
The victim of false accusation may lose promotion, work, confidence, and money, good name built over many years, prestige, dignity, fame and reputation.
Business of the victim of false accusation may collapse on the basis of false claims as we have seen in accusations relating to Churches, Mosques and other businesses.
If the issue of false accusation is to be proved or disproved in court of law or in public places, the accused will lose his privacy and good name.
A lot of time, money and energy may be required to prove or disprove the accusations.
If it’s a crime punishable by any means, the victim may be unjustly imprisoned or punished otherwise. Money and time may be lost. Relationships with children, friends and family may be broken.
False accusations have serious health consequences. At the outset, the victim is bewildered. He may become anxious, agitated, sleepless, depressed and be seriously ill mentally. Mania or Hypomania may develop as a result of false accusation or the accuser may be suffering from the disease while making false accusations.
Physically, person suffering false accusation may self-destruct by self neglect, suicide; have high blood pressure and suffer peptic ulcer due to anxiety and trouble of disproving the claims.
The accused, uncontrolled my commit crimes such as murder in anger by killing or seriously harming the accuser.
To The Accuser: Losses and Gains
Certainly, the accuser at least temporarily, gains a triumphant victory. He or she rejoices at seeing the victim suffer unnecessarily.
For the time being or until the false allegation is disproved, the accuser, may be promoted at work places or gain fame or a financial rewards or gain political victory.
False accuser may make false allegations to avoid being punished for crimes committed. He or she may therefore avoid ridicule, public disgrace or imprisonment, at least for the time being.
False accusers are not self-confident people. They shy away from dealing with their problems. So, to stay afloat, they level lies against others and so gain victory and confidence.
However, false accusers may in a lot of occasions if not always, be a loser. Once the false allegation is disproved, the victim exonerated then personal shame, demotion, imprisonment, public disgrace, repayment of false gains, restitution to the victims, are some of the losses that false accusers may suffer.
Foundations of False Allegations: Why is it done at All?
False allegations arise for the following reasons:
Sheer bitterness and envy against the success or person of the victim.
The accuser is simply lacking in self-confidence.
The accuser and the victim are in trusting position
The victim may have somewhat, offended the false accuser ( via failed promises, via what the accuser sees as action or inaction, use or misuse of words etc) to the extent that the accuser decided to bring the victim down to his or her knees. This is a case of misunderstanding.
Its all about self-preservation and survival. The accuser is selfish or wants promotion, recognition and fame.
The victim being accused is not careful enough to know the nature of the accuser and so may divulge confidential information to the false accuser who will in turn twists words and your good intentions.
The victim may be behaving in a way to suggest and give strength to the accuser to advance the true event beyond what actually happened.
The accuser may be acting at the orders or instruction of a third party that may be envious or bitter at the victim. So the accuser is a “mule” or “puppet” in the hands of the real persons.
The victim may unwittingly fall into temptation. At this, the victim may not have done anything wrong. However, in law an attempt is counted as if the victim had carried out the allegations as stated. This may happen in rape. If you have not raped somebody but you have your trousers down in a compromised position, you may be accused of attempted rape.
How to Avoid False Accusations
Evidence is the key to avoiding false accusations.
Never ever be found in a position of compromise.
Define who your real friends and confidants are. Why associate with people who will embarrass you?
Never ever write or say anything that will allow anyone to project or suggest something that is contrary to your true intentions.
Never enter into secret deals. Be transparent at all times.
If possible always have your transactions in writing and witnessed by others present at all times
Always have a chaperon with you at all times. If a chaperon is not possible, always request for your own handler who will guide and be present with you at all times. Do not allow for exclusion. Also, if possible especially in religious setting, ask your clients to come along with their own witness. In the extreme cases, enter into a written confidential agreement with your handler or chaperon to keep all transactions confidential unless the court of law asks for disclosure. Act with probity.
Technology has made things easier. Use video and audio recordings in addition to (e) above. Use close circuit TV with audio facility or use your phone or anything that will help you prove your transactions.
Let all your transactions be transparent. To avoid discussion being heard outside if you are consulting on confidential matters, if possible use glass walls (where you may be seen but not heard) as appropriate. Never ever, act behind closed doors alone or in the dark or act in private secret places.
Never allow for 1:1 without evidence to back your transactions up.
There is no ignorance in law. So be prepared to defend your actions. Do not have sex with someone on basis of size or appearance. It’s illegal to have sex with a girl under 16 in the UK, USA and EU. Ask for evidence of age before you do it! If your profession prohibits you having intimate relationships with clients, as most professions do, do not do otherwise.
How to Deal with False Accusations
In the Immediate Aftermath
In the acute phase, keep calm.
Shout aloud for help as soon as possible. False accusers hate to be exposed. Go to the press, report to appropriate authorities as soon as possible.
Do not react violently.
Seek immediate legal help or do some research to back up your claims.
Ask for proof of evidence of allegation against you.
Say nothing, write and do nothing that will compromise your position. Do not agree to sign any document whatsoever without a legal representation. Never allow to be recorded on audio or video as agreeing to the false accusation without legal advice.
If at home, have some sleep or escape your tormentors to a safe place. Come back as soon as possible to clear your name.
If at work, ask for evidence which of course may be false. Do not accept it as the truth. Ask for copies of evidence you.
If at work, ask to speak to your accuser or the manager to clarify things and establish the facts. If you are sure of your facts, deny the allegation all through.
Request that you have all evidence especially in rape cases, preserved. Ask for copies of evidence you. This will include, semen, vaginal smear, pictures of the genitals, the rooms or place where the allegation is said to have taken place.
Record in your diary the chronology of events. What was said and by whom including the accusers and your self.
In medium term
Have some rest. Keep keeping calm. Have some sleep. Take a break. You will need the energy for the battle ahead. Seek credible counselling. Ask for legal representation or do your own research to back up your claims.
Conduct yourself in most dignified manner. Enemies abound. You may be monitored by authorities via telephone, internet, audio, letters, your movement, what you say or do as further evidence to support the false allegations. Be careful whom you trust including so called “family and friends”. Restrict visitors and sympathisers but ensure you do not drive away everyone.
Disproving False Allegations
Without evidence, nothing can be proven against you though the huge damage may have been done and may now be impossible to undo it.
Also the burden of disproving an allegation may rest with you, unfortunately. Rape is one of such. So, gather your evidence: oral, written, sms/texts, emails, video, letters, photos, etc to support you.
If you can afford it and of course its may be necessary, use a lawyer to help you disprove the allegations.
Most cases of false allegations rests on lack of authority or consent to act in the way you did. You will need to prove that you act properly and within the law. It’s that simple.
If the allegation is proven to be false, you have a right to ask for, apologies restitution/damages or you can sue for damages if you have the means.
Good luck.
Chapter 3
Why is Attitude Important?
An attitude is the manner or behavior and approach that a person displayed towards and event or process. That is to say, the whole conducts in words, actions and body language that you show in the course of say your work or project or even challenges that you are tackling. It’s the part of you that others can observe about your enthusiasm or lack of it. Also, your attitude is the clearest demonstration of what your thoughts are and how you might handle your responsibilities or situations. Will you give up at the first hurdle? Will you endure difficulty? Are you friendly even in face of embarrassment? These are some of the questions that attitude tend to answer. Remember, attitude is a combination of self-awareness/survival and mindfulness about others around you.
Why is attitude important?
Clearly, people, business partners, co-workers, employers and friends most often look for individuals that they can depend on and trust. People are looking for characters that can closely match the way they see and conduct things at say home, work, business and in any position of responsibility.
If you therefore show or continue to show adverse or negative character that portray badly on you, then people around you will conclude you have bad attitude. It’s a way of saying:
They can not work with you. They worry you are not putting your heart and mind unto it---whatever it may be that you are involved in.
You can not be trusted to hold certain values in good and bad times, in success or failure in hard and bad times.
You cause offence.
It’s doubtful if you can hold position of responsibility, as they see it.
Why do certain people have bad attitude?
It may be due to frustration and unresolved personal issues in their lives.
It may be due to personality disorder, meaning they can not adjust or cope or adapt into situations. It may be due to immaturity and poor adaptations to change.
It may be due to mental illness or substance misuse
It may be due to cultural, language differences
It may be due to lack of understanding as to how to behave in certain situations or how to solve certain problems.
What can you do to have good attitude?
“Fake it even if you don’t like it”. Many people at work are not showing their true self. They dare not. We all have to adapt to our work environment for the sake of our living. So while in the midst of people, adopt the culture provided you will not be harmed in any way: in your body and mind. Still attitude requires that you protect and defend yourself in certain situations while in others; good attitude requires that you behave selflessly.
Show zeal even to your discomfort.
Do not grumble or complain without good reason.
Even if you have grievances, channel it to the appropriate authority (if you really have to) in a most decent and dignified way.
If you can’t tolerate where you have found yourself, leave before any damage is done to your reputation. You will certainly find a more suitable place elsewhere.
If you are facing difficult time, show endurance, calmness and tolerance or get out quickly.
Chapter 4
How To Avoid Being Cheated
In some ways, to be cheated is to be abused. Your trust, confidence and hope is being mistreated which is the same thing as being abused. The problem is, legally, you may not be able to prove that to be cheated is to be abused though you can try.
You could be cheated financially even by the big names in the financial industry. Your partner and friend can cheat you. Therefore, effectively to be cheated is to be taken for granted with the hope that you will not discover the cheating.
How do you prevent being cheated?
a) Be vigilant always. Except you are alert, the default position is that you will be cheated. But there are many decent people and institutions all over the world.
b) Question everything that is questionable. While you should not be a nuisance nor be seen as paranoid and deluded, have an eye of suspicion and be quick to ask for explanations even in relationships. Be non-hostile and do not become a wretched paranoid person. It could ruin your relationship. Have some trust.
c) Knowledge and awareness is everything. The more you know, the less likely you will be cheated. Even if you do, the more your awareness, the less likely the cheating will stand if you protest!
d) Ignorance and simplicity: If you are simple minded, trusting and easily led, you are at high risk of being cheated. Be careful.
e) Have a knack for investigations: Research for facts and truths. Match the result of your research with the facts/events before you. Make your decision based on the truth. Did you suspect your partner is cheating? Now, do you have evidence to support that? Research it!
f) Do not cheat yourself. If you cheat, you may be cheated against. Have clean hands. Be straight.
g) Avoid greed. There is a high chance that greed will lead you to a place where you could be cheated. Quickie and desire to gain undue advantage may lead you to a loss.
h) From the start, work with partner /persons or institution of good reputations. Why partner with emotional thieves (partners, spouses) or corporate crooks?
i) If you have been cheated, simply ask for explanations and restitutions. For emotional cheats, forgive and move on. For corporate thieves, pursue (including reporting to the police) and recover all.
j) Have a contract: Relationship or business. This will spell out what is expected of each person. It will make clear the penalties for breaches.
Section III
Your Health
Chapter 5
Body Odour and How to Deal with It
1. The human body is made of billions of cells. Each of the cells is at work 24hours everyday of our lives from conception till death. Whilst millions of cells are shed everyday, they are equally replaced at about the same time of their removal.
Each of the cells is a miniature form of a busy factory house—literally! They take in “raw materials” of food and water that we eat or drink or anything that get into our body. The raw materials (food, water and any substance) are processed as a factory would. The useful products are retained or sent to where they may be needed elsewhere in the body. The wastes or products that are not needed are discarded or sent out of each cell. Example: your sweats. Another example: “flatulence/belching”. Your urine and stools are other examples.
2. The human body have hormone and enzymes that facilitates the processes mentioned above. You are your hormones. Female smell female because of their hormones, so are men. They may increase or decrease the end-products which are explained above. Medications and illegal drugs can interfere with this factory work too.
3. There are bacteria (lots of them) in practically everywhere in our body except say our brain and blood. We have them on our skin too. Some are naturally good and we acquire them at birth and as we grow. They work to help us and to further break down or transform the “products” which I mentioned above. They need to be protected as they help defend us against illnesses. There are bad bacteria too. They only harm us when we are unwell or when the good bacteria has been removed. So the two sets of bacteria need to be balanced. Note that its a bad idea to remove the protective and good bacteria from our body.
4. Chemicals that you apply on you body. Chemicals react together. So, if say, you apply a body deodorant, it will react with those “products” mentioned above and the bacteria will also act on them to produce another chemical. The last chemical may become smelly in a bad way! Try mixing bleaching liquid with deodorant at home. The end product can be terrible! Also, you will smell the chemicals that is on your body. if you rub ammonia on your self, you will smell ammonia!
Warning: In spite of what is written here, excessive and too frequent body cleaning can easily damage your body. A medical condition/psychiatric illness may therefore result. Unreasonable application of artificial chemicals/ "scents" to mask body odour may have serious adverse effects on your health. Advice: be moderate!
With these, let us see how you can remove or take care of your body odour:
a) Wash (shower, bath) every day, at least once to remove, sweats and chemicals on your skin. Using simple soap that will not damage your skin is good enough. Remember that the amount of wastes and sweats and so, the odour that you produce may reflect your genetics and your environment.
b) When you perspire as in exercise, wash afterwards. Always allow for fresh air to circulate around you to take the sweats and odour away.
c) Maintain good overall personal hygiene. Eat good food too. You may smell your own food. Remember, you are what you eat. Nothing bad in it, if you eat onion, you will smell and breath a smell of onion. If you eat garlic, you will produce odour of garlic.
d) Do mouth washing at least twice a day (morning and night, with flossing and with mouth wash liquid for gaggling). See Your dentists once in six months for scalling and polishing if required.
e) Wash your clothes and take care of your shoes. Smelly shoes can rub on you!
f) Change cloths. Try not to wear the same cloths too often without washing them first. To absorb sweats and to contain body odour resulting from sebum, sweat and bacteria, try wearing sweat absorbing underwears (underneath shirts and trousers). This kind of clothing is especially useful if it covers the armpits and chests where most sweating occurs. Do note though that in women, tight and humid trousers environment may promote sweats, body discharges (vagina) that may become unpleasant due to the rich bacteria present in vagina area.
g) Cut your nails and tidy up. Keep your hairs washed and tidy.
h) If you use body scents or deodorants, use in moderation and use decent ones too.
i) Keep underwear tidy and clean. Change after use daily or use only unsoiled ones for 1-2 days at a go. Keep them washed.
j) Good toilet hygiene will improve your body odour. Wash your hands and clean the back-passage thoroughly. Remove and clean up all body discharges including those discharged from the private parts (reproductive parts or genitals) of men and women. They can smell badly (thanks to body chemicals and bacteria) if left for too long!
k) Your environment matters: You may smell your environment: food and cigarette will get attached to you and your clothing. You can change your clothing or change your environment or use deodorant to conceal the bad odour. Warm and humid environment can produce sweats for the bacteria to act on. This is why some feet, shoes and socks can smell so is the armpit! So wash!
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What it feels like when you are searching for happiness. The good news is that this book sets out to help you find the answer to the question that is also on the lips and minds of billions of people in the world: What is happiness and how do I achieve it? Based on scientific thoughts and new concepts, as well as clinical experiences, the book will help you to find your happiness following a step-by-step logical approach. To find out more, please begin to read this insightful and beautifully written piece of work.
Title The Secret And Supremacy Of The Expressed Word
Award-Winner in the Christian book category of the National Best Books 2008 Awards, sponsored by USA Book News.
ISBN: 9781434340481
Written in plain language, The Secret And Supremacy Of The Expressed Word is about the incredible power that lies in the words that we, as individuals, speak, write and sign every day. Our words are the most powerful tools that exist. Based on solid scientific research, as well as citing authoritative sources and distilled from various real life experiences, the book also touches on our words even before we express them, in a process that is otherwise called intention. Critically, the book examines the characteristics of our words. The author concluded that the words - in our minds, in our mouths, in our hands or bodies – are living things! The writer took great pains to explain, for the benefit of the reader, how our words achieve their spectacular effects, which includes creative, reproductive and transformative abilities. Thus, nothing will ever exist or be created without our words preceding them.
The Secret and Supremacy of the Expressed Word takes the reader through the step-by-step process of ‘how to benefit from’
the spectacular power of words. Many examples are given for the reader to follow.
The
book will appeal to all, including individuals who want to change
things in their life, positive thinkers, clinicians, Christians and
non-Christians, scientists and all enquiring minds who want to know
about our words, and those who want to advance in life, or those who
are simply puzzled by events around them - young or old.
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