Why We “Backslide,”
And
How to End
Backsliding, Self-Sabotage
and Other Hangups
Forever
Copyright Rhett Bise 2010
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By Rhett Bise
Author of “The Phone Booth”
www.HeroTransformation.com
Part One: The Pattern of Backsliding and Self-Sabotage
See if this story sounds familiar. You want to enhance a part of your life. Maybe you want more money, or you want success with women, or you want to “overcome shyness” and have social success. Whatever it is, there is something you are currently doing that is causing you unhappiness, or something you would like to do that would bring you more enjoyment, and you want to make a change.
So you search for a solution and find some system. Chances are, you pay good money for this, because it’s important to you – you really want to change this part of your life. You buy this self-improvement system, you read it, or study the DVDs, and you have some success. Maybe you start making sales, or you make a connection with a beautiful woman. You find that the self-improvement system actually works and you notice some initial success.
Then what happens? You start worrying that you’ll “backslide.” That voice, or that feeling, comes up and warns you that you are going to end up back in the same place of failure and frustration you were in before.
And even though you do not want to fail, you find yourself focusing on that failure and noticing the ways in which you are “backsliding.” You have trouble replicating that feeling you had when you found your first success. The next time you try and use the new system, it does not work as well, or maybe you “freeze up,” and it does not work at all.
And the more you focus on the “setbacks,” the harder it gets. Soon you are looking at that first instance of success as your “high point,” your ideal, instead of the first step on your road to success. And you find yourself falling more and more into your old habits and ways of thinking. That “high point,” which you actually achieved, becomes unattainable.
Eventually, you write off that first taste of success as “beginners luck,” or a “fluke.” You accept that you have once again backslid into the old way of being that has not been serving you. You become more and more convinced that this is how you were meant to be – this is “who you are.” Eventually, you become convinced that the self-improvement system does not really work, or will not work for you, and you give up. Maybe you search desperately for another system, or you resign yourself to being the way you are and make excuses for your lack of success, like “only smart and well-connected people make money;” or “only guys who are rich, or tall, or have big muscles, get the attractive women.”
And you do one more thing – you see this as proof that “backsliding” is real, and that whatever it is you are trying to achieve simply cannot be learned, that it is impossible to have real, lasting change in the areas of your life that matter to you. You buy into the idea that our personalities and habits are “hard wired” into us and that there is nothing we can do about it.
The Science behind Backsliding and the Law of Attraction
I am going to share with you some stone-cold facts. First, you are fully responsible for the results you are getting. Nobody else is responsible. Not the “guru,” not your parents or peers, not the media, not “society” or “human nature.” If you want to make your life better, the only person who can do that is you, and the only person who can stop you from making that change is you.
Second, every person has the ability to change their habits, thoughts, and behaviors. This is not some mystical, unattainable concept, but something that can be learned, practiced and repeated.
Third, there is no such thing as “backsliding.” There is nothing supernatural about people who have a success mentality versus those who do not. The fact is, we will go toward our destination, which is what we have chosen. Whether that is success or failure is up to you. You can learn to create success in your life just as you learned to create “backsliding” and failure.
You have probably heard of the “Law of Attraction.” Maybe you read “The Secret,” or a similar book that described how your intentions create your reality. And maybe, if you have suffered enough of those “backsliding” experiences, you have already convinced yourself the law of Attraction is a bunch of New Age BS concocted by hippies who smoked too many blunts. And I can relate, because I used to feel that way, too.
But I want to make clear for you that the “Law of Attraction” is not some mystical “woo-woo” spiritual thing. It is a scientifically-based observation of our mental patterns. And these patterns can be used for our benefit.
If I told you “think of a pink elephant.” You could close your eyes and think of a pink elephant. Now, if I told you “Whatever you do, do not think of a pink elephant,” what’s going to happen? Chances are, the first thing you will do is picture a pink elephant.
Maybe you have tried a version of this with your friends. At an inappropriate time, have you ever reminded your friend not to laugh? Or maybe someone did it to you. And what happens? The person usually ends up stifling (or not stifling) a laugh, causing themselves embarrassment.
Does this mean we are self-destructive? No. I will explain the facts later. But first, another example to prove my point. Have you ever gone car shopping and found a car you like, and then noticed everybody else on the road seemed to be driving the same car? Contrary to what some might say, the “universe” did not magically put those cars on the road. They were always there, you were just ignoring them up to that point.
The “Law of Attraction” is really your mind’s way of filtering out information. Our minds are bombarded with so much information, from outside images and our own thoughts generated within, that if we paid attention to every piece of information, we would go insane. So your unconscious mind has these filters that are programmed to sort out information and bring into consciousness those things we have asked our mind to look for.
It seems like we have no control over these filters, but in fact we have total control over them. The problem is, most of us have no clue how they actually work.
The unconscious mind works a lot like a computer in that it is very literal. If you tell it to “go to hell,” it will follow your command. It also cannot distinguish between positive and negative requests. If you think “I do not want to backslide,” your unconscious mind will understand “backslide,” and go to work producing that result for you.
Another thing about these filters, the more you focus on something, and the more energy and emotion you direct toward that object of focus, the stronger the filter becomes. Emotions and energetic intensity “hard-wire” the internal filters. So if you have an intense experience, associated with a certain object, that becomes your filter. This is how phobias, addictions and habits are created. But it is also how star athletes make those impossible plays over and over again.
Because most of us do not understand that we have these filters, much less how they work, these filters end up being programmed by whatever comes in, which means we end up having filters set up by other people – our parents, our friends, advertisers, teachers, bosses, coworkers, our own experiences, and that ends up being how we literally perceive the world, and in the end how we are living in the world. We are literally living someone else’s life, and it feels very random and not what we actually want.
How these filters are set up, and what these filters are set on, literally create our reality. Again, because you are bombarded with millions of pieces of information a day, you have to ignore almost everything. And you do. In fact, right now there are large chunks of reality that you are not seeing, hearing or feeling. There are thoughts going on in your mind that are being ignored.
Take a moment and feel your clothing on your body. Feel every piece of clothing touching your body.
Feels weird, doesn’t it? Most of the time your mind is “filtering out” that sensation, even though it exists all the time. And then I asked your filters to focus on that feeling, and you felt it. This process is going on all the time, creating your reality.
“Backsliding” and the Science of the Law of Attraction
So let’s go back to the “backsliding” story and see how this is nothing but an example of the science of the Law of Attraction.
You begin with a desire to improve yourself and you go to look for some skills to help you. When you first practice these new skills, your mind is open and positive, thinking about the success you want. Likely the information you are using to improve yourself is also creating positive filters in your mind, giving you instructions to have success.
So you learn a new skill and, with your filters opened toward success, you have some success with the new skill.
Then a deeper part of your mind objects. There is a more intense filter set to “finding failure,” or “finding unhappiness,” or some other unhelpful setting, and it goes to work disproving your success, challenging the facts that point to your success.
Maybe you begin to feel doubt. Maybe you start thinking about how you do not want to backslide, which is interpreted in your mind as “I want to backslide.” It is not that your mind is trying to sabotage you, just that all the programming is backwards.
So instead of focusing intensely on the success, you focus on the failure which draws more and more of that failure into your thoughts and your life. Your mind comes up with reasons why your initial success was not real, just as you asked it to do; your mind comes up with ways to “make it not work,” because that is what you instructed it to do. You did not mean to, but you did.
Your unconscious only follows directions, it does not run the show. You do. You just need to figure out how to properly run things.
This is the science of backsliding – you are not destined to failure, but you have inadvertently programmed your mind to create failure. And this process is working.
Part Two: Reprogramming your Filters – Using LOA for Your Success
So you have discovered how your “backsliding” is actually the “Law of Attraction” in action. You have learned the science behind why your mind seems to be “working against you.”
And this is great news!
If you can use the Law of Attraction to program your mind to create failure, and you can see and understand how that is working, you also understand how you can use this process to create success in your life. The very same process you have been inadvertently using to sabotage your success can be consciously created to produce a program for success.
You can not only eliminate “backsliding” forever, you can actually draw yourself, almost effortlessly, toward your success.
The process is basically the same as the way you “backslide,” except you are moving to a positive goal, a goal you actually want, and this is intentional.
Step One: Find Your Focus Point
When you were backsliding, your focus was on “backsliding.” “Not backsliding” and “backsliding” are the same when it comes to programming your filters. So your focus was on failure.
Now you will find one thing, one positive, helpful thing, that you want in your life. Make this something that is tangible and something you can accomplish yourself. Make it positive and in the present tense.
So come up with that one specific, positive goal. Maybe a new habit or something tangible you want to accomplish. Maybe it’s a way of being – maybe you want a carefree feeling, or to connect with people in certain situation.
Step Two: Associate an Image and Feeling
You have your positive intention, now give it depth. What would it look and sound and feel like to successfully have that in your life? What feelings would be going on in your body? What thoughts would be going on in your mind? Get as clear as possible. Really feel yourself having this success.
Step Three: Create an Emotional Charge Around What You Want
Now, imagine a time of intense happiness and elation. Maybe you had some success. Maybe your favorite sports team won a big game. Maybe you fell in love. Whatever it is, go back to that intense feeling, feel everything about that emotion.
It doesn’t even have to be a positive emotion, it could be anger, which certainly is the charge around a lot of thought filters, but I would advise using a positive emotional association, and make sure there is no “hidden hurt,” like the feeling of falling in love which resulted in a painful breakup. Make sure it is a “pure joy” feeling.
After a few minutes, bring up the image and feelings of the success image you want while feeling this emotion. Fully link the image and feeling of having this success you want with this awesome, positive, intense emotional experience.
Step Four: Begin Moving Toward That Goal
Every day, throughout your day, keep revisiting that image, those sensations, that intense emotion. And keep asking yourself “How am I getting closer to this?” “How can I being even more of this into my life?” “What can I be doing differently that will bring me closer to this reality?”
That’s it.
It is that simple, but it is not easy. Your focus is on you achieving that thing you want for yourself, what you can do to embody more of that quality, and in what ways you are getting closer to that vision of success you have created.
It will take some retraining for your mind to focus on the positive goal, without slipping into old negative habits, so learning this process is like learning a new skill. You will have to give yourself time and space to allow the new thought pattern to take hold.
And initially it will take work to “re-train” your mind. You will have to access that image many times during the day, and re-tweak it to make sure it is a positive image and you are asking yourself the forward-focused questions.
Also, since these thought patterns are tied up with emotions, you’re going to be going up against some emotionally-charged limiting beliefs and habits. So from time to time you will have to release these emotions and allow yourself to heal. This is a critical part of the process – clearing out the old emotions and healing old wounds.
And perhaps the most important overriding mindset in all of this is that what you are doing, what you are adding or changing in your life, is not who you are. Whatever level of success you are achieving, and whatever level of success you desire, are not reflections on you as a person. You are already perfect as you are – a perfect, amazing, immortal being. Your desire for more success in certain aspects of your life is you wanting to give yourself more of the things that bring you satisfaction and joy. But whether you have the success you want now or not, you are perfect and amazing as you are right now.
Two key parts of self-acceptance are first, taking time to get in touch with that amazing person you are and second, keeping your skills – and whatever you are learning or desiring is essentially a skill – separate from your self-worth. You are infinitely valuable. When you take the time to access that inner core, you’ll be blown away by how amazing you are. Next to that, your skills, or perceived lack of skills (and it’s all relative) have no bearing on your worth.
So whether you are a master at something or not, you can accept where you are at right now while still thinking the world of yourself. And you can observe yourself moving closer and closer to your goal without making it mean something about you as a person.
And that is a huge relief. It is a lot easier to change and have success when you approach it from the attitude that you are learning a new task, like riding a bike or learning the alphabet, instead of something that affects your worth as a human being.
When it comes to things like women and dating, there is so much emotion and perceived self-worth tied up in this, as well as deep biological urges, it feels to a lot of men that having success, or not having success, with women and dating is a reflection of their self-worth. The great news is it is not. It is just another mindset to learn, another skill. And when you are able to recognize the difference, it takes the pressure off and allows you to be very clear about where you are now and where you want to be, while at the same time fully appreciating your value as a man and as a human being.
And the really interesting thing about discovering this distinction when it comes to something as emotional and important as dating and relationships is that once you do find that distinction and begin fully loving yourself as you are and simply treat the process as a learning process, regardless of your currently level of “success,” you become a lot more attractive. Sometimes that shift alone can be enough to actually “solve” your “dating problems.”
Part Three: The Recipe for The Success Mindset
I want to give you a set of steps you can use to create a “positive mental filter,” to create a mindset that actually draws you into success, so you are “forward-sliding,” instead of backsliding.
Get Present
Presence is critical. If you want to have more success, you need to know where you are and what’s going on. Presence is also the pathway to getting in touch with that amazing inner core, to become fully aware of your self-worth, apart from whatever goals you are creating for yourself.
There are a lot of elements to presence. Learning and practicing presence, by itself, can often create the success you are looking for, the real fulfillment you want.
I recommend that you try out different techniques for finding presence and find those that work best for you. I’ll give you a simple exercise, which you will want to do for two to three minutes at least four times a day, to find presence and just relax and feel good about yourself.
Grounding Meditation
Sit quietly with your spine erect and your feet flat on the floor. Allow your eyes to close and just take a moment to notice the way you are right now. First, notice your breath. Is it fast, or slow? Is it deep, or shallow? Are you breathing into your chest, or all the way into your belly? Now as you notice your breath, allow the next breath to be a little slower, a little deeper. Allow yourself to breathe more into your belly. And allow the next breath to be a little slower, a litter deeper, a little more into your belly. And allow each breath to be slower, deeper and more into your belly than the one before until you are taking the slowest, deepest, most satisfying breath you have ever taken in your life.
Perfect.
Notice your feet on the floor, which is connected to the earth. Notice your connection to the ground, to the earth. Notice your butt and the back of your legs connected to the chair you are sitting on, which is connected to the earth. Feel that connection. Feel that you are being held by the earth. Allow yourself to settle in more deeply now.
That’s right.
Now notice the feelings and sensations in your body. Are there places of tension, or are you loose and relaxed? Are there places in your body that are numb, or is there feeling going all through every part of your body? And with each breath, bring more awareness to those places that are tense, those places that are lacking feeling, and allow your breath to unlock those places, to relax those places, to allow feeling to flow through those places. Keep going until your entire body is relaxed and filled with feeling.
Perfect.
Now notice your thoughts. Are they rapid or slow? Are they noisy, or quiet? And with each successive breath, notice your thoughts growing slower and more quiet until you begin to notice spaces between your thoughts.
And as you notice spaces between your thoughts, allow your awareness to focus on those spaces between thoughts. And as you allow your awareness to fill those spaces, notice how the gap between your thoughts grow wider and wider. With each successive breath, the gaps between your thoughts become wider until you can just be in that gap, that space between thoughts.
It feels like your thoughts are clouds in the sky, and you’re awareness is on the sky. Just be with that, and notice how good it feels, how whole and complete you feel. And allow your awareness to remain there in this space for as long as you feel is right for you, then return to where you are.
This is a simple and effective method of finding presence. Like anything else, finding presence requires practice. So practice presence as often as possible. It feels great, it’s relaxing, and it’s the foundation for creating the amazing change you want in your life.
Presence is about being in the moment, not being “in your head.” It is about being aware of what is going on and your place in it, with total objectivity. It’s about “what is.” If you want to get somewhere you need to know where you are – not a representation of where you are based on assumptions, limiting beliefs and faulty information. It means really being who you are and being where you are at in the world.
Acceptance and Self-Acceptance
Once you are aware of what is going on, and your place in all of it, you need to accept it. That doesn’t mean you have to like it, but you have to appreciate what is and be right with it. And you also need to appreciate and be right with yourself.
One of the critical aspects of acceptance is self-esteem. You need to recognize and value your worth as a human being and not let your situation determine your value. Whether you are right where you want to be in life, or way off track, that does not change who you are as a human being. And you can move from where you are at in life to where you want to go, and make dramatic changes, while all the time seeing yourself as infinitely valuable.
So acceptance, or appreciation, and self-acceptance, are in two parts. First, get right with what is and recognize the value. This involves paying attention and getting curious about the world around you. And second, really get to know yourself at a core level and appreciate your own worth.
Acceptance and appreciation, of the world and yourself, is about experiencing yourself and your reality with an open heart, free from judgment and predetermined beliefs. It’s about letting “what is” impact you as it is. In a sense, it’s really presence, but it’s about taking the next step and really staying with what is, without going into your old habits of interpretation and expectation.
Appreciation and Acceptance – Feeling Your World
As you go through your day, instead of looking at objects and giving them a description, just view your world as if you were touching it with your hands. If you’re looking at a car, imagine feeling it. Do this with everything in your world, and every person.
As you become more comfortable with the practice of feeling your world, go another step with the people in your world. Feel the people in your experience not only as if you were touching them, but allow yourself to feel their experience emotionally. What would it feel like to you being in their experience?
And remember, just as wherever you are at is perfectly fine, wherever other people are at is fine, too. This isn’t about pity or even empathy, it’s about allowing yourself to feel other people’s experiences, just as they are, with total objectivity – with acceptance and appreciation.
Make this practice a regular part of your experience. See how you can bring this way of perceiving the world more and more into your normal way of being. It feels nice, doesn’t it? Maybe it feels a little unnatural at first, but eventually you’ll feel very natural, more “alive,” because you are being more “alive” in your perceptions.
And your relationships with others will change. You are more connected with their reality, which makes you more in sync with people. Your connections will be richer and you’ll find you’re more attractive and interesting to women around you.
Deepening your presence and appreciation will also make you a MUCH better lover. You’ll be there with her, paying full attention, and really feeling her experience, which are qualities of a great lover.
But there is another part to acceptance that is even more important, and that is acceptance of yourself. In order to create those positive mental mindsets, you need to be able to feel and appreciate your own self-worth, completely separate from whatever success you are searching for. Your pathway to success is separate from your value as a person. When you recognize that, it makes it much easier to learn new skills, because they’re just that, skills. They’re not a reflection of you as a human being. So you can have fun while learning and not let it impact your self-esteem.
Discovering Your Worth
Go back to the meditation exercise. Spend some time in that place of presence and wholeness. And when you are there, take some time and feel into your essence, your value as a human being. Imagine you are in a place where you are completely free from any blame, worry, guilt, or any need to get anything right. This is a space of total freedom, just for you.
And while you are in that space, notice how you begin to feel that sense that… you are alright. Feel the sense that you can love and admire yourself, just as you are. And the more you feel into that, the more you feel that sense that you’re truly great, and you can feel that no matter what you’re doing or going through.
And as you practice this, day by day, it will become easier to access that self-worth, that essence, that permission to feel good no matter what. Keep practicing – you may have to really imagine the feeling at first, until you train yourself to have permission to feel great about yourself whatever the circumstances.
Another part of this, as you are doing this exercise, focus on something that you do that really makes you proud at a deep level. Everybody has something, and it does not have to be something that is impressive to anybody else, but it makes you feel proud of yourself – some quality, something you do. And really feel into that, really open up and allow yourself to feel that pride, that self-worth. Because this thing you are proud of at a deep level, that is a reflection of your essence, it is part of your truth.
Creating the New Image
Now you are ready to create a new positive image that you will move toward. Use the steps in Part Two to help guide you through this.
First, choose something you want to change. It must be something positive and tangible. Try and make it as specific as possible. What do you want to be doing? What skill or quality do you want? Or maybe it’s a bad habit that you would like to replace with a more empowering behavior. Start with something small, because part of this is learning the process, which is a skill in itself, so you don’t want to overwhelm yourself. Part of your goal will be to learn how to create this positive mindset.
Once you have found that quality, go through the grounding exercise for establishing presence. Once you are in that place of presence and stillness, create a picture of yourself as you are now.
Now, imagine that image has achieved what you are wanting, that image of you enjoying the success you want. See yourself having that success, feel yourself having that success. Notice the way you are behaving, what you are thinking, everything.
Now, the last piece is to add that emotional component, as we went through above. Focus on a powerfully positive experience and bring that image of you having that success you want, as clear and focused as possible in every way, as you experience that feeling.
Really sink it in, so every time you access this picture of you and your success, this feeling, this awesome experience, is coming up with it.
Releasing the Negative
As you are moving toward your goal, you will be going against long-held negative beliefs – about yourself, about other people, and about the way the world works. Your movement toward your goal will be giving you proof that these negative beliefs, which in many cases you have been simply accepting as true without any argument, are in fact false. Your progress will be giving you more and more evidence every day that the fears and doubts that have been holding you back are just your imagination.
This is going to bring up some intense feelings, old doubts and worries. You may even find yourself reliving old traumas. You need to release these, to let these trapped feelings and experiences go. You’ve trapped these experiences inside, holding them instead of letting them work their way through and be released.
This is where a lot of people get held up. They see releasing as something that’s incredibly difficult. It is actually not that difficult – in fact it takes less effort than holding onto the negative emotions and experiences, but it requires you to practice a new habit.
One way to think about releasing is to create a fist and hold it as tight as you can. Now, is it easier to hold your fist like this than it was to keep your hand open and relaxed? Of course not, this is taking effort. But over time, you will get used to the tension and will hold the fist. And you will find it actually takes conscious effort to “unlock” your fist.
So that is what you are doing, you are going in and “unlocking” these trapped emotions and experiences. In fact, if you imagine them as being held in, like something you are holding tightly in your fist, and use that analogy, this will help.
There are several methods for releasing, but the basic process is the same. You identify where you are holding onto something, you decide to let go, you let go and allow the emotion or experience to work its way through you. And after it finishes its course, it will go away and you will be free of that tension and “holding back” around that emotion.
So we will go through the basic recipe, and I encourage you to find techniques that work best for you, to use this as a guideline and continue your exploration. There are a lot of possibilities and techniques, this is just a basic model.
Identify the negativity that you’re holding onto. Can you identify the feeling? Try and be specific about the actual feeling you are holding back. Is it sadness? Is it anger? Is it fear? There’s some intense emotion that has caused you to “freeze up,” and it’s trapped in there. So take a minute to understand what it is.
Ask yourself it you are ready to let go of this emotion, to allow yourself to feel the emotion, knowing it will work its way through your system and everything will be okay.
If the response is yes, as that part if it will let go now.
If either answer is no, ask that part of you what it needs to let go now, and keep going through these steps until you get a yes.
Feel the emotion, allow it to flow through you. Feel the ride.
Keep feeling into this emotion, see if you can find joy in this feeling. Eventually it will dissipate.
As you keep practicing these steps, the releasing process will become easier until it feels natural, because it is natural – it’s natural for us to let these emotions run through us and not hold onto them out of fear we’ll be overwhelmed.
Affirming this Image
Keep feeling yourself getting closer and closer to your ideal image. Feel the new mindset, the new habit, pulling you closer and closer to your ideal. Know it’s happening and you’re making it happen.
Return to your original meditation and, in your state of presence, see yourself getting closer and closer to your vision. In this state, remind yourself you are getting closer and closer to your vision. And you are moving closer and closer. Feel how your mind is actually pulling you toward this goal. In this state, tell yourself that you are moving closer to your goal, that this image in your mind is filling up more and more of your reality.
There are a lot of ways to do affirmations, but the way to make them powerfully effective is to anchor them with a feeling. Actually feel yourself being pulled toward your goal as you visualize your goal coming closer and closer and you tell yourself you are becoming closer and closer to your goal. This is the difference between simply repeating a phrase and actually affirming at a deep level.
Keep Going
And finally, keep going. Keep focusing on your positive image. When you find yourself being pulled into the negative, redirect your focus to that positive image. Keep asking yourself how you are getting closer to this goal? How can you get closer to your goal? What can you do now to bring yourself closer to your goal? In what ways are you closer to your goal now than you were yesterday? Or a week ago? Or a month ago? How can you feel yourself moving closer to your goal, to having that vision fully in your reality?
Going Deeper
This is the basic recipe, the basic explanation of the process. I have intentionally made it logical and analytical, because I feel too often the “Law of Attraction” gets associated with supernatural spirituality. And I want to show people who may be skeptical of the Law of Attraction that this is all about you and your mind. This is about you taking responsibility for your own mind and your own thought processes.
This is not about you “wishing upon a star” and the magical “Law of Attraction Fairy” granting your wish. It is not some cosmic or supernatural force at work. This is about you consciously programming your unconscious mind to create the future you want for yourself. In the end, the only limit on your future is you, and the only one with the power to change that future is you. And you have the power, with this new understanding of how it works, and how you can make it work for you, to begin to reprogram your mind and create success.
There might be a spiritual component to the Law of Attraction, but more likely than not, what people are experiencing when they report that “the universe” brought things into their life is that their unconscious mind was aligned at such a level, and operating so effortlessly, that it seemed as if the person was not doing anything. It can feel like that, like it’s “just happening.” And that’s because the powerful unconscious mind, which operates without your conscious effort, is doing the work. But that does not make it magic, or some supernatural element, it is you operating at your best.
Is there also a greater cosmic element at play? Maybe there is. I actually do believe there is, but that is not the point of my writing. My intention is to show you that this kind of mental retraining – visualizations, affirmations, and the Law of Attraction, is all very a logical processes to help you perform at your best, to help your mind operate in synch. And it can be broken down and learned, like anything else.
This is a very basic explanation, and I encourage you to explore this more deeply. And I also want to encourage you to see this as just the beginning. It is actually possible to not just create a new habit, but actually create a powerful new identity that is aligned with your heart’s desire. And there are far deeper, more involved ways of making this happen.
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Yours In Service,
Rhett Bise
www.HeroTransformation.com