You don't learn that in school! Excerpt
by Jamila Diallo
Smashwords edition
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Chapter 1 : Managing your mind
The ancient Greeks believed that men were mere playthings to amuse the Gods. If the fancy took them, the Gods could wreak havoc in men's lives and delight in their struggle. The Arabs believe in fate, ''maktoub'' which litterally means '' what is written ''.In other words, the scenario of your life is already written. Your life happens to you, you have zero control over it. There is nothing you can do about it, you do not matter. You're an object.Well, you are not an object. You are the creator of your own life. You stand at the centre, you are the main character .That is what the Law of Attraction states. It says that you matter, because the thoughts you think everyday create the events in your life. So if you want to control your life, you need to control your mind. It is that simple. Thoughts lead to actions, so if you want to change what you do, you first need to change how you think.
Whatever result you are experiencing right now has its root in a thought.Your thoughts create your experience of life, they colour your perception of what happens to you.That is why it is crucial you gain control of them.Because right now, they are running wild , scot-free.You are not running your mind right now, your mind is running you. The tail is wagging the dog.But with practice, that can be changed.Each and every one of us can master his own mind.You need to become a good mind manager.That is the only way you can find true, lasting happiness.
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Chapter 2 : Appreciating what is
The difference between happy and unhappy people is not what they have. Rather, it lies in whether or not you fully appreciate what you have. Happy people have the uncanny ability to appreciate what they have, however small it may be. Unhappy people, on the other hand, no matter how much stuff and privilege they have, cannot do so. It is one thing to have something, to appreciate it is another. Most of the time, we take what we have for granted, we assume it's always going to be there. But it is not. The key to contentment is to recognize that everything and everyone in our lives is special. And if they are special, they deserve our gratitude. When we receive a gift, we say '' thank you ''.Well, each day life is handing you gifts. You may not recognize them as such, but they are.
Appreciating what is is about being in the present, not in the past or the future. I am not talking about what was or what could be. It is about paying attention to what you have, who you are right now. When you are not in the ''here and now '', your life is passing you by. And that is a shame. Because the moments you missed cannot be relived. You can't press '' rewind ''.
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Chapter 3 : Building your self esteem
You are the most important person in your life.Loving yourself is the single most important thing you could ever do .It is your biggest accomplishment.It is more important than getting that high paying job orthat car you dream about.Whether you love yourself or not will determine the quality of your life and the level of your happiness.People who despise and hate themselves lead patheticlives. It doesn't matter if they have great wealth, and appear to be successful. They may seem to have it all,but if they do not feel good about themselves, no amount of money will do the trick.They may live in palaces but deep down inside they feel like paupers.
The biggest misconception people have is that they believe they cannot love themselves right now.They think they first have to fix their flaws before they can appreciate themselves.If you persist in that path, two things are going to happen: first of all, the flaw will remain and second you will never love yourself.You are lovable just the way you are, right here, right now, not in the future. The time is now.Stop procrastinating on your biggest task. Cut the excuses and start building your self esteem.
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Chapter 4 : How to be successful
Success can be defined as the reaching of one's goal.
Which means that each and everyone of us has his own definition of success. What you want is not what your best friend wants. It is important to recognize that success is personal. My sister once told me that other girls my age were more successful than I was. Her definition of success is having all the material stuff. My definition of success is living my life on my own terms, and breaking free of my previous conditioning. She thought I was not successful, while I thought I was more successful than the girls she compared me to.
I believe my achievements to be more important than theirs. Success is not about the piling of material goods, it is about becoming a better version of yourself. We do not pursue goals for themselves but to stretch our abilities. Success is about progress, it is about self-improvement. It is not what you accomplish that matters, because all of that can disappear in the wink of an eye.What matters is who you become at the end of the journey.I may not have much in the way of material stuff, but I feel successful because I have become the better, improved version of Jamila. And that is priceless.
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Afterword
I would like to thank God for the opportunity He gave me to transform my life.
Like Buddha said : " Between a man who vanquished a thousand million men in war and a man who conquered himself, the latter is the greatest victor."
Bibliography
- Unlimited power , Anthony Robbins.
- You can heal your life , Louise Hay.
- Creative visualization , Shakti Gawain.
- Miracles of your mind , Dr Joseph Murphy.
- The art of happiness , the Dalai-lama & Howard Cutler.
About the author
Jamila Diallo used to be a straight A student who loved school. She loved learning and everything was fine until she reached college. She had the nagging feeling that something was missing. There was vital information she did not know. She realized that she had merely been stuffing her mind to capacity with knowledge that made no difference in her daily life, but knew nothing about her mind. Since the school system was not delivering the answers she needed, she decided to go out in search of them.She is passionate about helping other people learn those life changing skills too.Read the first half of ¨You don t learn that in school¨ here. Download her free ebook Ten bad habits we learn in school.Visit her Smashwords author profile: http://www.smashwords.com/profile/view/janabikad.Blog: http://jamiladiallo.blogspot.com.Find her on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/jamiladiallo.Follow her on Twitter http://www.twitter.com/jamiladiallo.Check out her YouTube videos.